MUSE-INGS: Be the Example of Good Conversation Skills

April 1, 2010 — Rosemary

Conversations.  Dialogue.  Words to consider.  Sometimes a topic or an issue can be such a polarizing subject that people shy away from having a discussion.  Perhaps it is time for reviving the practice of dialogue, where we learn to discuss a topic even while disagreeing.

It used to be that civility required that one not attack a person for the ideas that they held.  Ideas could be discussed, even debated, without the debate becoming a personal attack.  Some people are forgetting that.  In drawing rooms of old people sought out others to listen to the information being discussed and to proffer opinions but to genuinely listen with openness to what was being offered by others.  We don’t seem to be teaching the children of today about this art of conversation.

On television, they see a point/counterpoint discussion of people yelling at each other and interrupting.  School debate teams might be more civilized but they imply that there are only two sides to each issue.  What about the gray areas?  What about a third perspective or the middle ground?  Why must every discussion become a debate in the form of right/wrong and ‘I’m right and you’re wrong’?  How will our children grow up to be good conversationalists and to learn to really listen to what others are saying when they aren’t seeing it modeled in the society around them?

Too many families are too busy to have dinner around the table so that the art of conversation can be practiced.  It is as small children sitting with the family that people learn to model conversations.  Learning to wait one’s turn before speaking, to really listen to another rather than be thinking of the next thing to say are qualities that one must be taught, preferably by example.  Talking about an idea, a topic of interest, and learning how to respect another’s opinion even when it differs from one’s own, are important skills to learn as a young person.

Several years ago I was picking up my grandchildren from their elementary school and was shocked to hear the tone of voice being used to address teachers as well as other students.  The tone did not convey respect and I heard it over and over again.  Parents have a difficult time training their children to show respect in their speech when for many hours a day a different attitude becomes the norm.  But it is worth the effort for parents to teach their children how to listen and how to speak to be heard.

Every discussion in which one participates requires that one consider the feelings of the other person with respect.  Whether that other person is a dear friend, a family member or a stranger in a store makes no difference. They deserve respect and honor.  And so do you.  Don’t let others talk to you with a lack of respect.  Your ideas are worthy of discussion and you deserve to be listened to.  The best way to receive this kind of treatment is to model it.  Pay attention to the energy in your conversations and notice how you feel when you are talking with others.  Do some make you feel comfortable and heard?  Or do they make you feel small, dismissed, or ignorant?  Consider this when you decide where to spend your time.  Actively seek out those who help you to expand your horizons while respecting you and your ideas.  Be the person in the conversation who is always elevating it to the plane of higher consciousness.  You will feel good and others will, too!

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THIS WEEK’S MYSTIC MESSAGE from The Divine Feminine: Are your conversations from a Conscious Perspective?

March 31, 2010 — Rosemary
Dear Ones,

Look around you at the people with whom you surround yourself.  Do they have a positive energy with them?  Do they think of possibilities or do they focus on failures, regrets and what might have been?  What do you speak of with them?  Do you allow the people around you to guide the conversation or do you participate or even steer the conversation to those topics that are uplifting?  Do you consider solutions or do you cut off discussions before solutions can be defined?

Think about the art of conversation and how you participate with others.  Think about the others and the kinds of conversations you have with them, individually and collectively.  Do you feel expanded by the interactions?  Can you see another possibility when you discuss an idea with that person?

It is time to take control of the conversations among people because rhetoric is replacing true exploration.  In many parts of the world people do not engage in conversation because all of their energy is going toward their survival.  The freedom to carry on a conversation goes along with having survival assured in one’s life.  Consider the societies where conversation is an important part of one’s day.  Sitting at the coffee shop or patisserie, around the water cooler in an office, over lunch with friends or colleagues, over a meal at home with the family.  What topics are discussed?  Are they ideas, philosophies, gossip, rants, complaints?

Ideas have a high vibration energy to them, as do philosophies.  When one stays with an idea it can stimulate thinking, mental activity and creativity.  A philosophical discussion can spur one into considering the field of all possibilities, thus expanding the horizons of thought.

The other topics above take one into a lower vibration and cause a contraction of one’s energy, often into an unconscious protective stance.  Gossip about others creates an unconscious fear of being gossiped about oneself.  Complaints cause one to focus on a problem and not on a solution.

You can always take a conversation and turn it into something of higher vibration by gently steering the discussion into higher planes, addressing solutions or ideas or taking a different, higher perspective on the topic.  When someone is mired down in a problem or an issue, it is often up to the other person to offer a perspective from the higher view.  One who is stuck in the energy of the problem may not have the resources to examine all the possibilities for solutions.  This is why it is often advantageous to discuss an issue with another person.

However, discussing an issue does not mean being wedded to the story to the point of staying a victim in the narrative.  Rather, it means allowing the other person to offer suggestions and really listening to those suggestions.

Sometimes you will be the person with the problem and sometimes the one with the solutions.  Are you willing to look at the conversations you have from now on from this perspective?  This is not about judging another person for their views or for getting into a problem situation.  This is your always coming from an open heart that truly wishes to help the other to find peace.

The other side of this is for you to embrace a willingness to really listen to others, to see that they might have another perspective to offer you, and to consider what is being offered.

The kinds of conversations we address here require that neither party devolve to name-calling, judgment, anger/hatred/violence.  We are addressing here conversations between two people who honor each other and who allow each person to have ideas that may differ from one’s own.  These conversations can result in true dialogue and personal growth for both participants.

Decide today that these are the only kinds of conversations you will have.  Decide today that you will minimize time with those who refuse to have these kinds of conversations.  Seek to be the peacemaker, for your own good as well as for those around you.  And solutions you haven’t dreamed of might appear!

And so it is.

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NEWS FROM ROSEMARY

March 26, 2010 — Rosemary
Spring is officially here and we have the remnants of our 10 inches of snow on the lawn!  But as a dear friend said the other day, ‘Every Spring we get one good snow storm and when the snow melts the grass has started to turn green.’  We’re hoping that this was the storm that will turn the grass back to green!

Pay attention to the Full Moon on March 29th as this brings us the balance of the scales of Libra [Moon] with the fire of new beginnings and energetic movement of Aries [Sun].  The equinox last week showed us about balance in our life, the balance of going with the flow and staying centered in our own inner stillness.  Now we have the energy to move forward coupled with the balance of being still inside.  This is a powerful place to be for inner power does come from inside each of us.  And remember that the Full Moon is always a good time to get rid of what we don’t need, a true Spring Cleaning!

Be sure to register early to hold your spot for the Conscious Confidence Workshop/Playshop April 24-25 in Colorado Springs!  You’ll learn how to approach the decisions you face in your life and you’ll have a system for having confidence in the decisions that you make.  And you’ll have a lot of fun learning the system!  If you’ve ever felt confused about the choices in front of you or if you often second guess a decision once you’ve made it, this workshop is for you!  Read more about it and register at:

www.RosemaryBredeson.com

We had a great Conversation with The Other Side in March and will be doing that event again on April 28th.  Join us and receive a message from your angel, spirit guide or a loved one who has crossed over to The Other Side.  Sometimes we get messages from pets, too!  Check out the details and register at:

www.RosemaryBredeson.com

Have a wonderful week!  We’ll be visiting Los Angeles this weekend and then spending Easter in Maryland, with the grandchildren.  Hurray!  If you’re in either place, please contact us.  We’d love to see you!

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MUSE-INGS: Listen to the Children

March 23, 2010 — Rosemary

The children of the 21st Century are amazing beings.  So many, though, really are super-sensitive. I watch our grandchildren struggle with their sensitivities and yet they are truly radiant beings of Light.  I’m sure your children and grandchildren are as well.

What is it that they are here to teach us?  I think the most important thing we can learn from them is an openness, a big heart, an acceptance of themselves and others as they are.  I once heard my granddaughter say that she had been criticized for saying that she sees the fairies.  [She does.]  Her answer was that everyone is special in their own way.  She has a cousin who can talk with wild animals and they are not afraid of her.  That was Makayla’s answer to being criticized.  It represents an understanding that, ‘Just because I am different from you or your understanding of the world does not mean that there is anything wrong with me.’

Of course, she is also a regular kind of tweener, 12 going on 21.  These sensitive kids need our help in making sense of their surroundings.  They arrive on Planet Earth knowing that there are many levels to consciousness and they are not afraid to share what their experiences are.  We, in turn, try to teach them to follow the rules as we understand them.  Could the lesson for us be to re-examine what we thought were the rules?  Bill Maher, in his TV show, “Real Time with Bill Maher”, offers ‘New Rules’ every Friday night.  His are often funny and tongue in cheek, but he always has a reason behind his offerings.  Maybe it is time for us to examine all those things we thought were ‘rules’ and decide anew whether or not they fit the times.

In politics there seem to be two camps of people – those who wish to advance their society with new thought and those who wish to hold onto the old traditions and to fight change.  Oftentimes we seem to get more wrapped up in the arguments than the issues would warrant and we forget to step up above the disagreement to look for long-reaching effects and to use expanded consciousness in our search for solutions.

In every area of 21st Century life there is an opportunity to expand consciousness and step all of humanity up to the next level.  We must learn from the children to be cosmic beings, not citizens of one country or members of a political party, a particular ethnic group, a religious group.  We must step up and look at situations from that cosmic perspective, asking for long-term information about decisions we are considering.  With the energetic changes that are coming, we must fight the tendency to be narrow in our thinking, for we will miss the great things that are approaching if we live within tunnel vision.

Expand your views.  Open your horizons. Listen to the children.

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This Week’s Mystic Message from The Divine Feminine: The Children are the cosmic beings – listen to them!

March 22, 2010 — Rosemary
Dear Ones,

Can you hear the winds of change blowing through the world in these days?  There are so many changes coming that you will start to see people being thrown off balance by what is happening around them.

The cries of those in need will become louder and the boasting of those who have more than they need will turn to compassion as they start to see themselves as connected to all others.  Oh, we know that there are some who are unable to experience compassion but most members of the human family are, by nature, compassionate people who have been trained into selfishness by society.  In most societies on Planet Earth there is a sense of connection, with nature, with others and with the cosmos as a whole.  The cycles of nature on Planet Earth are understood by most of her peoples.  The understanding that what one individual does affects all others is widespread on the Planet.

It is only in those societies that have lost sight of this connection to others where you can see the individualism that prevents human consciousness from expanding.

But we would speak to you today of the coming changes, that which you who are on the path of Conscious Living can look forward to.

People all over Planet Earth are feeling the coming changes.  Earthquakes shake the physical world but the energetic world is also being shaken up.  Light is beginning to form in places where before there was darkness.  Those who wish to resist change are starting to become enlightened about the need for change.  You will first see this in how the children of the Planet are being treated.

The children alive on Planet Earth today are a special breed of the New Human.  They have an intelligence that defies your intelligence testing and analysis.  They are cosmic beings who have actively chosen to assist Planet Earth in her evolution toward expanded consciousness.  Look at those who have been born in the last 20 or so years as the ones who will carry changes through the coming times and into the future.  These children do not communicate well with those who are older because it is as if they come from a different planet.  In fact, they do.  These children were born on the former Planet Earth but are truly here to be inhabitants of the coming, energized and expanded Planet Earth.  Only those adults who are able to expand into the new consciousness will be able to keep up with these children.

It is precisely because these are New Humans that your medical and educational and societal systems do not work appropriately for them.  These children do not need to be drugged – they need to be protected as the super-sensitive beings that they are.  They are not to be confined by structures created for a society of hundreds of years ago – they must be supported and listened to as they are the ones who understand the coming energies from a cosmic perspective.

Listen to the little ones.  Ask them questions about what they understand.  Listen to the questions they ask and help them to explore answers, for the answers you might have given 20 years ago will no longer serve.  Spend some time with young people even if they are not blood-related to you, for you will certainly learn from them.

And then decide to open your horizons, expand to become a conscious cosmic being yourself.  You can do this by being open-minded.  Connect with others and understand that all are one, there is no separation.  This is the most important message for the coming changes – there can be no isolationists.  All are connected.  All are One with the Source.  It is the children who know this.  Listen to them.

And so it is.

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BOOK LIGHTS: from “The Power of Focus”

March 17, 2010 — Rosemary
“It seems the headlong rush for material success and all the trappings of a so-called successful life are not enough.  To be truly rich includes not only financial freedom, but developing rich, meaningful relationships, enriching your health, and enjoying a rich balance between your career and your personal life.

“The nourishment of your own spirit or soul is also an essential requirement.  This takes time to explore and expand.  It is a never-ending process.  The more you learn about yourself – how you think, how you feel, what your true purpose is and how you want to live – the more your life will flow.”
Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen and Les Hewitt
Keep learning about yourself, using all the tools you can.  The more you know about yourself the more easily you will flow with life.  Your key to Conscious Living is to become more educated about who you are and what you desire for your life.

Rosemary

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MUSE-INGS: What You Give, You Receive

March 16, 2010 — Rosemary

Each of us CAN have a great impact on the world around us but it is so easy to become insular and forgetful of our place in the greater scheme of things.  Sometimes it feels as if we are alone, sometimes as if the crowds are crushing us, and sometimes we can feel both at the same time.  Yet we can choose to ‘be peace’ in a particular situation and to reap the benefits of that.

It is true that we receive as we give out.  What we give we get back multiplied.  This applies not just with money but with words, with energies.  We treat someone nicely and they treat the next person nicely, and the next person we encounter treats us nicely.  It is very simple, really.

On a grander scheme, if we meditate on Peace and Love, we enhance the energy of those vibrations.  There are studies showing the impact a group of meditators can have on the crime rate of a city, and it takes only 1 % of the residents meditating to have that positive impact.  If you and I agree that on a certain day we will focus on Peace for 5 minutes, imagine the impact we could have.  What if we each got 10 people to do that, and each of them got 10 people to do it, too?  We could have an impact.  As a matter of fact, I think I will propose this project on Facebook and choose a time, such as the Spring Equinox or Summer Solstice, where everyone can pause for 5 minutes and focus on Peace for Planet Earth.  If we all did this, and invited our friends to join us, we could have a rolling 5 minutes of Peace around the Planet for every time zone just as the Equinox or Solstice peaked.

So what can you do every day to participate in sharing the frequency of Peace and Love in your immediate world?  Can you greet people from a place of acceptance in your heart?  Can you drive your vehicle with tolerance and love toward others on the road?  How about picking up the telephone and calling someone just to let them know you were thinking of them with love or fondness?  How about, instead of raging at someone who has made a mistake or who has frustrated you today, you choose to take a deep breath and then create in your mind a reason why they might have done that and forgive them?

It doesn’t take long before acting this way becomes a habit.  You can shift your automatic pilot to react with peaceful feelings if you become aware of your instinctual reactions and pause before you act on them.  Learning to ‘hit the pause button’ is the first step to Conscious Living.  Focus this week on catching yourself about to slip into some negative energy and refocus that energy in a positive direction.  Wouldn’t you expect to have a positive week if that’s what kind of energy you put out there?

As a caveat, please do not equate a week of ‘smooth sailing’ with no glitches to be a positive week.  Those are nice, but Life brings with it many challenges, big and small.  It is not about what is thrown at us, but about how we respond to those challenges that make us evolving, conscious human beings.  Choose to respond in a positive fashion and others will react to you this way.

As an example, I had a frustrating visit to a 5-star hotel in California this week.  It started with my entering my assigned room and finding it already occupied, including dog!  There were several other mishaps and frustrations but I tried to maintain a peaceful attitude and asked specifically for the remedies I expected, all the while being friendly to the staff with whom I was interacting.  In every case they took care to offer me more than adequate recompense.  I suspect that if I had stormed and screamed they would not have been so generous.  And others who had problems were reluctant to bring it to the attention of management, but this is not spreading peace because they were feeling extreme frustration and anger.

So choose how you react to what comes to you in Life.  And choose that that reaction be one that spreads the vibration of Peace and Love around you.  The Planet will thank you and you will receive the benefits.

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THIS WEEK’S MYSTIC MESSAGE from The Divine Feminine: You impact the Planet – speak Peace!

March 15, 2010 — Rosemary
Dear Ones,

The 21st Century represents the dawn of a new era in the evolution of human consciousness.  For previous centuries the individuals have been learning about their own lives and what is required of them to grow and survive on Planet Earth.  In the 18-20th Centuries people traveled farther from home and learned about other cultures to a much greater extent than had been previously possible, except for a few explorers.  In the 21st Century, the entire Planet is connected via airwaves and computer networks and satellites.


An individual can no longer consider himself or herself to be a separate entity, one who can make choices without affecting the rest of humanity.  No human being is a totally separate entity.  In fact, no one ever has been, but the connections have not been as vast as they are in the 21st Century.

Each individual must consider the repercussions of every action that they take, not only on their immediate environment but also on the Planet as a whole and on all the other peoples of Earth.  Every step upon the Planet leaves an impact.  We are not talking here of just the environment as Nature and soil and air and water.  No, we are talking as well about the energetic environment on Planet Earth.  When a person or a group of people engage in activities that stir up hatred and dissension that energy has a ripple effect around the Earth.  And when a person or a group of people engage in activities that generate peace and love that energy, too, has an effect around the world.

Imagine that you are one individual who can affect the energy of the entire world with your thoughts and actions and the energy that you generate.  Why would you then generate negative energy, or hatred, or anger and let that energy move around the Planet affecting the whole world?  But if you focused your thoughts and activities on generating peace and love and acceptance and tolerance, imagine the impact that would be felt around the Planet.

Do not think that one person can have no impact on all the others on the Planet or on the Planet herself.  Think of those individuals who have single-handedly led groups of people into slaughtering other groups, or who have created economic conditions that caused the death of many people.  In the 21st Century there are those who are having such an effect in their countries that many people are dying because of politics or the exercise of power or the greed of leaders.  If one person can have a vast effect in the negative sense, then the laws of energy would indicate that one person can also have a vast effect in a positive way.

Be that one person yourself.  You do not have to be in the news programs.  You do not have to be or become famous.  You do not have to be wealthy.  Focus your energy on being peace and love and acceptance and tolerance, to those immediately around you and in a general sense toward the whole world.  Your example will inspire others. When you treat those around you with these energies they will, in turn, spread that vibration of energy to their circle.

Be careful of your speech. Catch yourself before you utter the words that would counteract the energy of peace and love.  Notice how your speech patterns are reflecting the energy of peace and love.  Consciously choose to think and speak of these higher vibrations.

We do not say this only for the good of the Planet Earth.  There is a benefit to you as an individual as well, for the vibration that you cast into the atmosphere around you is multiplied and returned to you magnified – be careful what level of vibration you cast into the atmosphere!

And so it is.

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BOOK LIGHTS: From “The Journey” by Brandon Bays

March 10, 2010 — Rosemary

“I realized that there is a way in which everyone must follow their own, unique healing path, and it is an experience that no one else can have for you.  Spiritual transformation is an inner journey – it’s the soul’s personal path of learning and letting go, and it’s something that must be experienced on your own.”

Spiritual transformation IS an inner journey, and it starts with asking the right questions of our Self in every moment: Who am I to be in this moment?  What is mine to do in this moment?   What is the truth for me in this moment?

Rosemary
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MUSE-INGS: Spreading Love and Light to All of Humanity

March 9, 2010 — Rosemary

Humans are capable of so much love and devotion to each other that it is disturbing to see how many people are choosing a path away from that.  What has happened to cause us to lose our way to the Light?

I don’t have a simple answer to that question.  I am constantly amazed at the way that some people speak of others, the demonizing of those who disagree.  I work diligently to learn the truth of the news and am amazed at the lies that are perpetrated on those who are unwilling to work so hard to uncover these lies.  It amazes me that there are those who willingly repeat lies to unsuspecting folks who listen with a belief that they are being told the truth.  How much darkness is spread through lies?

And then I hear of efforts to respond to natural disasters that come from an outpouring of love for all humanity and I am encouraged that, while the media might give air time to those who spread lies, most humans on Planet Earth are of a compassionate nature.  How cold a heart must it take to turn away from a child in need?

I’ve heard the theory proposed that the bombing of a building in Oklahoma City years ago opened the heartland of the US and created an outpouring of love for that City and those who were affected by the bombing.  There was a tsunami that was devastating and again humanity came to the assistance of other members.  Earthquakes and hurricanes and typhoons happen and all eyes, hearts and wallets are focused on giving aid.

Perhaps these natural disasters are Mother Nature’s way of focusing our attention on the need for us all to agree that the peoples of Earth are really all one people.  And a natural disaster is a way of telling us where to focus our Love and Light at the moment.  We might wish that governments rushed to help human beings but in the end it is human beings who will step in when they can offer compassion.  Indeed, some governments do rush to help.  Some countries are founded on principles that the government works for the people, for the individuals who might need assistance and their response to natural disasters reflects this.

But the ultimate responsibility for each individual is always to ask, ‘What is mine to do in this situation?’ Whether that situation is in one’s own immediate life, one’s local environment, or on the world scale, the question is always, ‘What is mine to do?’

Leading with this question and really listening for the answer that comes from deep within oneself will lead to a choice to bring Light and Love to Planet Earth.  No one who truly asks with an open mind and an open heart will hear an answer that causes them to shut down, to bring more darkness to the Planet.

I like to believe that more and more people are asking and listening and hearing that they are to spread the Light of Love more broadly on the Planet!  That all humans are part of One Humanity.  That separation is not of the Light.  And Love enhances Love every time!!!

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