INSPIRATION: Are You Flipping Out Over Something?

October 24, 2012 — Rosemary

It seems today as if there is always something to ‘Flip Out’ over!  What has you feeling this way today?

I sometimes hear clients longing for simpler lives or less stress or at least less drama in their lives, but they are really wishing for something to change about their circumstances without a thought to how they can change themselves.

Flipping Out happens when we don’t have enough resources in our tool box to deal with what is happening in our environment.  If you can reach into your Resource Tool Box and pull out just what you need to do in this circumstance, then you just do that and there’s no need to get too excited.  But how often are you perfectly prepared for exactly what is going on?

Let me say here that I am not talking about going into denial and pretending that nothing big is happening!  Sticking your fingers in your ear and singing, ‘La, la, la, la!’ won’t manage the stress of the circumstances, although, I admit, sometimes that seems like an attractive behavior choice.  Denial invites the Universe to keep bringing the lesson to us, over and over again, with perhaps more severity each time until we learn what we are to learn.

What tools have you been developing to prepare you for whatever might come your way?  Are you on a path of constant personal growth, seeking new skills, finding new opportunities to explore ideas?  Are you committed to your own personal, spiritual growth as a journey of exploration?  How you answer these questions will determine how well you can handle what happens around you.

Just as an athlete doesn’t wake up one morning and decide to win a gold medal in discus throwing without training for that exact sport, so, too, must you train for the circumstances that haven’t yet come into your life.

When the doctor says, ‘There’s something of concern going on here,’ or you get the phone call that, ‘There’s been an accident,’ how will you respond?

I pray that you never hear those words but it could be something else that throws you for a loop and the resources must already be available to you or you will find it more difficult to cope.

So what are you doing today, this week, this year to expand the tools in your Resource Tool Box?  Are you taking a class?  Working with a coach/counselor?  Reading self-help books?  In a group with speakers who teach you tools?  Attending seminars and conferences with content-rich programs for personal growth?

This is not an activity that can be postponed indefinitely!  Now is the time to prevent Flip Out!

Learning meditation can be a great start.  Breathe, hit the pause button, take a moment to collect yourself.  Allow thoughts to arise but to keep flowing onward, without attaching to the thoughts.  Give yourself permission to focus on your breath and to let go of thoughts and emotions that come up for you.  Give yourself permission to simply BE.

Sign up for a class on a psychological or spiritual topic that intrigues you.  Read a book that someone has recommended to you.  Find a group of explorers that you can join to study new ideas.  Work with a coach who can help you to develop the tools that are best for you.

Fill up the Resource Tool Box and you’ll be ready if and when something happens.  Won’t it be nice to have the confidence of knowing that, even if you never need to use the tools, you won’t have to resort to ‘Flipping Out’?

 

 

 

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MYSTIC MESSAGE from The Divine Feminine: Going in Circles?

October 18, 2011 — Rosemary

Dear Ones,

Where are you heading? Do you know the direction in which you are moving? Are you going around in circles?

Many people spend their whole life moving in circles from one activity to another without any real direction to their life. Often, they are seeking something, especially some meaning, and they use busy-ness and activities to attempt to find what they are seeking. They are looking for a needle in the haystack of a busy life.

You cannot find what you seek by staying too busy to sit and listen to your inner guidance. What you seek is already within you. Are you looking for meaning? Purpose? A Sense of direction? It is all available inside you but you must know how to look for it.

When you keep asking others for their opinion, you indicate to the Universe that you are valuing their opinion above your own. When you keep going to classes, seminars, workshops or getting degree after degree after certification, you indicate that you don’t feel whole within yourself. But these patterns keep you from valuing your own opinion, from finding the wholeness that you seek.

You probably do not need to take one more class, get one more degree or certification, or attend one more seminar to find what you are looking for.

Pause. Breathe. Go inside for guidance and listen to the wisdom that you find there.

Are you feeling that there is nothing there or that you don’t know how to do this? Then ask for guidance from someone who can help you. But be sure that you are asking for help in the process of finding or confirming what you already know within yourself. Be wary of someone from the outside who tries to tell you what to do without checking that it resonates with you on the inside. Pay attention to your own intuition, to your gut feelings.

You are always connected to Source Energy that can guide you if you listen to the wisdom that is in your heart. Remind yourself of this connection and you will feel what you need to know. There is wisdom within you that might have been untapped for your whole life, but it is time now to access that wisdom. You might have had gut feelings before but not been able or willing to trust them. Now is the time to learn to trust.

The world is opening to new ways of operating and, if you are experiencing these words, then you are on the path to learn these new ways. Move ahead. Hold your head high when others question what you are doing. Others do not need to understand your choices. Others may criticize or complain or judge you, but they are not living your life – YOU are. Decide that you will move forward today, even if it feels like a baby step for you. Get out of the comparison game and avoid looking at how others are choosing to live their life, for this has no relevance to you. You came into this lifetime on Planet Earth so that you could have a series of experiences that would promote your Soul’s growth. Bless those experiences and move forward.

What lies ahead for you is glory, joy, peace and happiness. And more lessons because you are alive on Earth at this time. What lies behind you is the sum of experiences that have brought you to this moment in your life. All is as it should be. You CAN move forward. You CAN find your purpose, your meaning, your next step. Seek within and ask for guidance to do this.

And so it is.

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MUSE-INGS: Clear the Path to Your Richest Life!

August 2, 2011 — Rosemary

Clear the Fear. That might seem like a tall order for us in these turbulent times. But it really is key to living a Conscious Life.

The exercise we’ve been given, to create those lists and examine what is in our Life at the moment, and what is not, can have a profound impact on how we proceed with our Life.

Think about what you have been doing today. What is on your to-do list? Do you have activities that reflect your values and their priorities or are you afraid something will happen if you don’t get your whole to-do list done today? Is today one of the days where you would claim that you are living your richest life because of the choices that you have made? Who are you on your to-be list today? Did you even consider the question, ‘Who am I to BE today?’ when you planned out your time?

Is today your ideal day? Yes? Then congratulations! No? Then ask yourself why you aren’t living your richest life today. Did you answer with the list of ‘musts’ and ‘shoulds’ and ‘have tos’ that most of us consider when planning how to spend our time? And the next question is, ‘Whose agenda am I fulfilling here?’ Oftentimes the answer to that question leads to the source of our fears around how we spend our time. Married couples are often choosing to jump to the tune their partner is playing without pausing to consider if that is what they feel is important to them in the moment. An employee might allow interruption after interruption to occur in their day at work because they are afraid of losing their job. An adult might still be hearing the voice of a parent from long ago directing their activities and their priorities and fear the loss of approval. There are plenty of answers to whose voice might be in one’s head at any given time.

So if today has not yet played out to be your ideal day, then PAUSE, take a breath, and check with your inner guidance about what you really want to be doing with the precious 24 hours we call ‘Today.’ What really feels as if it’s the top priority for you today? If the answer is, ‘self-care,’ then are you willing to take some time for yourself today? If it’s, ‘spend time with the family’ are you willing to move something to tomorrow’s to-do list so that you can relax and connect with your family members? If it’s ‘take time to dream’ are you willing to do that?

This exercise takes some practice to master. We hear the voices or feel the compulsion and we think it is just what we are supposed to do. But really examining the source, being honest with ourselves about our fears [loss of love, loss of approval, loss of job, for example] will help us to become more conscious of what it is that we CAN control in our lives.

If you are living a reactive life, then you have given away some of your power to others or to the circumstances. It can be your limiting beliefs about yourself that keep you jumping to the tune of someone else’s song. I often find that clients I am working with think we need to develop their business plan or work on the design of their workshop, when the first work we have to do is clear the blocks, remove whatever is holding them back from their excellence, so that they can be free to examine new possibilities. The business plan or workshop flows easily when the way is clear of fear.

Clear the limiting beliefs that cause the fears. Remove the distortions that cloud your view of the possibilities for your life. This is the Life YOU are leading. Make sure you are very clear about making this your Richest Life!

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MUSE-INGS: “Greedy Hermit or Compassionate Conscious Being” by Rosemary Bredeson

January 25, 2011 — Rosemary

Well, I, for one, do not want to be a ‘greedy hermit’!

And, yet, sometimes it feels greedy to just want a little time alone when there are so many demands being placed on our time and energy.  How to strike a balance?

The first way to do this is to get in touch with what is going on inside you in this present moment.  Asking yourself how you feel, what’s happening inside with relation to outside, is an important tool to cultivate.  Oftentimes we go through our days on a sort of autopilot that keeps us from being really aware of the energies within and around us.  We plow through our to-do lists, going from one project or activity to another.  How many times have you said to yourself or others, ‘In a minute…’?  Can you find a way to pause and be fully present to this moment NOW?

When we pause and take a breath into this moment we are connecting with our body and our own energy and there is a lot of information available to us through this connection.  When we are aware, we can sense our feelings and the energies of those around us.  The more you practice this skill the greater will be your awareness of these energies.

For example, if you are blithely going through your day and yet a co-worker or spouse or child is struggling with their day, do you take time to notice?  Or are you so wrapped up in your own stuff that you are oblivious to that struggle?  It is not a judgment against you if the answer is ‘yes’ but this could be your wake-up call that sometimes you need to come up for air and, like a submarine’s periscope, scan the horizon for what is going on around you.

Do you participate in conversations or discussions without really listening to what others are saying, verbally and non-verbally?  Maybe you can start checking on yourself every so often to see where your attention has been and bring it back to connecting with those around you.

Watching your language, your tone of voice, making eye contact, your body language – all of these awarenesses can lead you to improving the connections that you have with others.  With more information about what is going on with the other or others, compassion can rise up in your heart and you can offer that energy in response to what is going on.  If you are clueless to what is happening around you, then you cannot connect to compassion.  And you want to.

Compassion is a very high frequency energy that is important to the world today.  The more we can share that energy the more the Planet can benefit.  One compassionate act can also bring others along with it.  The compassionate one can bring awareness to the clueless, can move the ‘greedy hermit’ into consideration of others.  Compassion can be contagious!  Wouldn’t you like to be the Typhoid Mary of Compassion?

Make a commitment to yourself that you are going to spread compassion this week wherever you find yourself.  At a gathering, look around for the person who seems lonely or alone and chat with them.  At home, look at the others in your household and really see them.  Ask questions and stay interested in their answers.  On the street or at the mall, try walking around smiling at people, saying, ‘Excuse me’ if you bump into them, or even if they bump into you.  Ask the server at the restaurant how they are doing and listen to their answer.  Spread compliments [heart-felt, please!] everywhere you go.  If you are looking for something to compliment you will not be focused on finding fault.

Become more aware of others and of what is going on inside you.  Awareness brings consciousness and compassion can spring from that.  See what it feels like to keep yourself in this high frequency energy!

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MUSE-INGS: “Practice Making Conscious Choices!” by Rosemary Bredeson

December 7, 2010 — Rosemary

Choices.  Choices.  Choices.

Sometimes it feels as if we have too many choices and at other times that we have no choice.  It really does help to move up above a situation so that we can gain a bigger vantage point and see that there are always choices to make.  When we focus so narrowly on only one possible path, seeing only one possible choice, we limit ourselves and can feel powerless over our lives.

The first step in improving a situation like this is to pause and breathe.  Taking a deep breath actually moves our internal state into one that can see beyond the tiny perspective we have when we are holding our breath or breathing in a shallow manner.  So take a deep breath now to remind yourself how it feels.

Then allow yourself to metaphorically step back from the situation and look for the list of all possibilities, include those you might laugh at because they seem so outrageous.  Go ahead and laugh but put those outrageous possibilities on the list.  Then keep listing options until even the outrageous ones are exhausted.  This keeps you moving beyond feeling powerless and into a bigger energy.

How do you make a choice from among the list of possibilities?  Do you have a system that you have been using?  How is that working for you?  Do you feel confident in your choices?

For some people, the best choice is to delay making a choice.  Some people need time and space for decisions to percolate within them.  Others need to discuss the options because they process better by talking than by sitting alone and thinking about them.  Some might flip a coin or ask a trusted advisor.  What is your system?

If whatever you’ve tried in the past doesn’t give you great confidence in the decisions you make now, try a different system.  If you’ve relied on the past in working it out by yourself, why not try discussing a choice you have to make with someone else?  If you’re used to asking for advice, why don’t you try examining your choice from every angle by yourself first?  If you’ve never tried dowsing, why not get out a pendulum or consult oracle cards or try some other divination tool?

The point is to try a new approach to bring you into a consciousness about making choices in your life.  You are always at a point of choice if you allow yourself to see your life that way.  Learning to see your choices and to get in touch with your own empowered inner self leads you to become stronger in making those choices.

Find the Confident You by practicing your decision-making skills from a place of empowerment.  Notice how many choices you make in a day and then become conscious of every choice.  Are you ordering the same thing for lunch every day or can you make a different choice?  How about that Starbucks order – are you consciously choosing that latte or are you doing it out of habit?  What about the route you are driving – is it the one your intuition is leading you to drive or are you ignoring that inner signal to go a different way today?  Follow that inner guide.  Make each choice count today.

You will find that confidence depends on the skills you exercise in making choices, big and small.  Practice different skills to build your confidence.  Make conscious choices starting NOW!

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MUSE-INGS: Oh, how tempting a tantrum can be!

July 13, 2010 — Rosemary

Aren’t there times when you would really like to throw yourself onto the floor and bang your fists while kicking your feet and screaming at the top of your lungs?  Who of us hasn’t seen a little one doing just this and envied them their ability to drop down to the floor in the middle of a department store and let their feelings out?

I remember stepping over my daughter when she threw her tantrums, allowing her to cry herself out.  She got so smart that she would move to a room with a carpet on the floor so that she wasn’t throwing herself down onto a hard kitchen or foyer floor where the tantrum wasn’t so comfortable!

But most adults have eschewed such behavior.  Or have we, really?  Maybe we don’t get down on the floor but do we shut down and ignore others when we are doing our ‘adult pout’?  Do we ‘accidentally’ say or do something that causes hurt to another when what we really want to do is throw ourselves on the floor and scream at the unfairness of it all?

Being honest with yourself, can you see a way in which you might still have some of the strategies you developed as a child working in your life today?  It’s easy to wish that the world was fair – which it is because we all get our share of lessons, some easy, some difficult — and that everyone around us treated us exactly the way we wished they would – which might be easier if we didn’t expect them all to be mind readers.  So what do we do if we find a coping mechanism at work in our life that we no longer desire to choose?

The best strategy to develop is what I call ‘The Pause Button.’  Can you learn to catch yourself reaching into your unconscious database and pulling out an inappropriate response?  Hit The Pause Button so you can be conscious about your choice of reaction/behavior.  This is what the old ‘count to 10’ maxim is all about.  Pause.  Reflect.  Act consciously.

As we move through life we are giving challenges to our personal growth and how we react to stimulus is one of the ongoing life lessons with which we must learn to deal.  What challenges do you face that you must find resources to handle?  Who in your life is bringing you practice lessons in finding your ‘Pause Button’?  And who knows exactly how to ‘push your buttons’ so that you find it nearly impossible to pause?

Challenges are with us.  Our response to challenges can change with each encounter.  Living a Conscious Life requires that we learn to grow through all our experiences.  We’re not allowed to throw ourselves onto the floor and do a tantrum anymore, even when that unconscious little child within is begging to be allowed to do just that.  Find another way.  Think about it now and tell your unconscious mind to latch onto the new, preferred response before it goes back to childhood memories and chooses that old strategy.  Plan to hit ‘The Pause Button’ when somebody pushes your other buttons.  Breathe and consider.  And make sure that your new choice isn’t just an adult form of that toddler’s tantrum on the carpet!

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