Hostage Situation – Inside Yourself? – Richard’s Commentary

I can certainly relate to Rosemary’s Exploration this week. And it’s not any one or big fear that holds me back from “living my richest life.” It’s usually little things. And when I move beyond the fear and look back I think: “what was I ever afraid of?”

Most of my little fears come from my childhood. I was an only child for a long time – my next brother came along when I was already eight. I was protected and even revered within my extend and large family of grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. And because family was always there I didn’t have to venture out much into greater society.

So, when Rosemary asks: What part of you is holding another part hostage? I can usually point to my inner child – that protected and easy living six year-old.

Rosemary is exactly right when she says:

But most of the fears that I see with clients represent a conflict between a part that wants to step forward and a part that is afraid to do that.

It can be around any issue: a relationship, a job, money, family, taking a risk, making a decision. There is a feeling of wanting to move and yet, at the same time, a sense of paralysis.

My adult self always wants to step forward; I am usually energetic, decisive and know what I want. But sometimes that six year-old digs in his heals and sets up a block out of some weird sense of protectiveness.

Does this ever happen to you? Do you ever feel paralysis as you work toward an important goal? When this happens to me I usually have to go inside to work through the issue. Sometimes I even have a talk with the six year-old to calm any fears he may be experiencing. I remind him of several factors in the situation:

  1. I am in charge and I know what I am doing; I’m the adult, after all!
  2. We have done things like this before and it always comes out well!
  3. Look to the end result, the success. Doesn’t that make you happy?
  4. Let’s just move forward and see what happens; you’ll be OK.

This inner dialogue can take several forms: meditation, writing, even sometimes a shamanic journey (for me this is similar to an inner guided meditation) to visit my places of safety and my power animals. I can even take my six year-old into the future to see the positive outcome and allay any further fear.

Of course using a coach or counselor is always an option. Inner child work can be very powerful and productive. The tools and help are there for all of us to “live our richest lives!”


MUSE-INGS: Personal Growth and New Ideas

If our thoughts come from ideas, then we really do need to be careful about the ideas that we embrace, don’t we?

In working with private clients over two decades I have seen that the limiting beliefs people carry with them stem from some idea that they embraced as immutable truth, usually when they were a child. This is not to criticize the parents, for they were doing the best they could, and often they had no idea that the child was embracing what the child thought was immutable truth but which the parent was able to contextualize differently.

How many of our current thoughts rise up from some idea our 5- or 6-year-old inner child embraced as Truth with a capital ‘T’? This is the work of personal growth, to ferret out those ideas, embraced without examination, that form the basis for many of our current thoughts, especially those that are holding us back from accessing our own inner greatness and from sharing that with the world.

I believe that each of us has an Inner Splendor, a brilliant Light that is ready to shine forth into the world when we access, appreciate and allow it to shine. When we shine this Light through our Soul Purpose in Life we invite others to join us on the Path of Light. This is the beauty of accessing our Inner Splendor and shining that Light.

But what blocks most people are the thoughts that limit them from their own greatness, the thoughts that, when the original idea from which they stem is identified, can be examined and eliminated or embraced depending on whether or not they serve the individual at this time. This is the real work of personal growth.

Are you on a path of examining your thoughts for their origins? Do you continually examine situations in your life for whether or not they stem from beliefs that come from somewhere or someone else, not your Inner Splendor?

The 21st Century has its own transformative energy [especially emphatic as it was ushered in in 2012] and invites us to examine every aspect of our lives so that we can grow in Consciousness and expand our awareness of the workings of the World.

Personal growth is not just about the person. Personal growth is the work we do as individuals that moves us forward on our path so that we might manifest that Inner Splendor as we agreed we would do when we took on this lifetime. Each of us has a Soul Purpose to realize and express. We have a Mission to accomplish on Planet Earth. And all of this depends upon our doing our personal growth work to create clear channels of the energy of Light that shines through us.

Commit yourself to doing your personal growth work. It’s never ‘done.’ I have been actively engaged for a very long time and I am still surprised at things that come up for me to examine and change. I still find things that lurk inside with their insidious influence. It feels so good to release them!

And when I work with clients it is a joy to get the feedback of the freedom they experience when they release their limiting beliefs, the thoughts that no longer serve them!

Do your personal growth work, whatever form that takes for you today. Release the thoughts that depend on your holding onto beliefs that do not serve you. Reach into that higher frequency level of the Light of Consciousness for some new ideas to examine.

You’ll be glad you did!

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MUSE-INGS: Where the Children Lead

Where the children lead, we must learn to follow.

It’s an interesting concept but we’ve heard it before. We also need to heed it now.

The children are trying to tell us something about the world in which they wish to live. Have you talked to a young person about the environment lately? They accept recycling as a way of life. They care about trees and forests and animals that are endangered. They care about football and baseball and shopping at the mall, too, but they are tuned into their environments and are following the intuitive guidance they receive about what will keep the planet safe for them to enjoy and what will destroy it.

Children also care about others. There are some amazing stories about young folks who hear about a problem, do a little research, start a lemonade stand or take up a collection, and do good works with what they have earned. These kids have something to teach us.

First, they listen. Really listen. And do we do that? Do we really listen to what is going on around us or do we leap to conclusions based on our pre-conceived notions or political perspective or religious views? Are we willing to ask a whole bunch of questions until we get enough answers to form an opinion, or do we form an opinion and stop asking questions?

When our granddaughter was 7 it was a national election year in the US and she listened to presidential debates with the candidates, asked questions, and then decided which candidate she thought would be the best president. She really did sit through long debates and ask cogent questions. [I found it hard to sit through those tedious debates!] But she was astonished to learn t hat she could not vote in the election because she was too young. She was outraged! I did take her to the polling place on election day so that she could wave a poster of her preferred candidate, about the only thing that a 7-year-old can do about an election.

But what was she trying to show us? She modeled how an educated electorate participates in a democracy. She took time to ask questions. She reviewed information. Do we do that? In how many situations do we do the research, ask the questions and, most importantly, weigh information before we form an opinion that a hurricane couldn’t move us to change?

What about the child inside of you? Do you listen to the voice of that scared, timid, insecure child or do you ignore the voice? Maybe there is a better way to work with your inner child than to try to shut him/her up. Perhaps really listening and then offering reassurance would lay to rest the fears instead of allowing them to operate within you at an unconscious level. With many of the clients with whom I work this is an issue where we focus the coaching. Buried inside each of us are the children that we once were, the ones who reacted to the parenting that we received, who were told a worldview to which they must subscribe. But also buried within us are the children who were dreamers, the ones who knew that this world could be a better place and who wanted to be the ones to bring that better world into existence.

‘You may say I’m a dreamer, But I’m not the only one.’ Remember that song – Imagine, by John Lennon? Let’s return to being the dreamers that our inner children were. Let’s allow the children around us to have and to pursue their dreams for a better world. Let’s listen, really listen, to the messages from all the children, inner and outer, as they lead us into that better world. And let’s commit to support the dreams that all people have.


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