Is Your Life Reflecting Your Values? — Richard’s Commentary

Rosemary always asks these pointed and difficult questions! Yes, I know they are good for me to reflect on, to answer, truthfully, for myself. And I actually thought this one would be reasonably easy for me to reply to and write this commentary. Then I took a second look!

A couple of years ago I did an exercise to clarify my values, to align them with my thinking, my philosophy. I made a list and prioritized it. I took a deep dive into this analysis, writing at length about these values I had come up with, what they mean to me and how I live by them. At the end of much thought I distilled the set of values down to two key ones: Practice and Love. In fact I even drew a diagram, a schematic to relate these two primal values: Practice –> Love.

No, this doesn’t mean my practices lead to love and it doesn’t mean if I practice well enough I will learn love. Maybe these meanings are overlays here, but these are two distinct values for me. I truly value that I am able to practice my various approaches to live a conscious life. Meditation, yoga, qigong, pages, poetry, … and any other consciousness raising practice that comes along that has potential for me is a key value. And how much more can I say about Love? Self, family, friends, community, humanity, life, Planet Earth, Nature, food, wine, beer making, wow…so much to love in life! And, clearly there is a relationship between practice and love. I love my practices. My practices help me better understand this whole sense of Love. Love improves my practices. It is complex and I can’t say that I even fully understand it when I write, and I often do: Practice –> Love.

But Rosemary’s question goes deeper here. Yes, she asks us to review our values, but more importantly to review our lives as they reflect those values we reaffirm! This is the key analysis, the driving question.

And I’ve spent the last several days, as part of our retreat weekend, reviewing and refining my answer. My answer initially is “no.” Oh sure, I’m doing a lot of practice, and I’m pleased with this. I also love: I am partnered with the love of my life. I am part of a loving family. My kids really do love me (at least they’ve done an awesome job of showing it!). But there’s a deeper level here I am reaching toward.

My exploration begins with the word “unconditional.” This is the quality of Love I’m reaching to attain. And this would then truly be the goal of Practice –> Love, my core values. I am not practicing unconditional love at every opportunity and therefore, my life is not reflecting this value.

That said I am working on it. This is my new level of Practice I’m striving to achieve. I suspect it is a life-long pursuit! But I have begun. Last evening, after Rosemary and I had returned from our retreat, our daughter stated, somewhat tongue-in-cheek, that she had been craving pancakes for breakfast and would I please get up to make her some next morning! Hmmm, on Wednesdays she leaves for work at 7:15; hey, I’m retired, and while I am working harder than ever before and enjoying it a whole lot more, my hours don’t include 7:15 am! I did not commit! But this morning I was awake at 6:30, wanting more sleep. I debated with myself for about 30 seconds, and then asked “what would I do if I held the value of unconditional love? Yeah, you guessed it; I got up and fixed daughter and two grandsons pancakes (two different kinds). And the surprise and smiles were well worth the few extra winks!

With this good experience as a launch point I have been challenging myself to come from unconditional love all day. I’ve failed multiple times! I had several errands to run which meant driving and encountering other drivers; always a stumbling block for me to keep my cool while driving, but at least I continued to pull myself back to my core value. I’m practicing!

How are you practicing your values this year?

ROSEMARY’S EXPLORATION: Is Your Life Reflecting Your Values?

We’re getting down to the nitty gritty here and I hope you’ll seriously consider what’s in this article.  How do you decide which activities will receive your attention today?  What values are you using to allocate your precious hours today, the hours that you will never be able to recapture after they have been spent?

This is where living a conscious life meets living the hectic 21st Century busyness that seduces us all into thinking that things have to be the way they are.

You have 24 hours in each day.  Your human body requires 7-9 hours of sleep – good, peaceful, restful, restorative sleep.  The rest of your hours are yours to spend as you choose.

‘Wait!’ you say.  ‘I have to go to work, get the kids off to school, teach my class, meet with my clients, go to the grocery store, and ______________ [fill in the blank]!   I don’t have control over those hours!’

To which I answer, ‘Yes.  You do.’

Every moment of every day we are at choice as to how we will spend that moment.  You choose to work at that particular job.  The kids might be able to get themselves off to school or a nanny could do it.  You scheduled your class or your clients.  Groceries can be delivered or a personal assistant or a spouse can do the shopping.  And so the choices go.  You might think that you can’t afford things but you can afford certain things because you choose them.

I’m not being simplistic here.  We all make choices and ‘I can’t afford it’ really translates to ‘I choose to spend my money elsewhere’ or, even, ‘I CHOSE to spend my money elsewhere and now I have to pay the bills.’  Still, it is all based on choice.

So knowing that you choose how to spend your time, how can you make sure that you are choosing according to your values?

First, you must know what your values are and you must know them in priority order.  I frequently see a client who feels conflicted and the answer to clarity lies in examining the values that are bumping into each other.  Here are two questions to ask yourself:

Who do I really want to spend time with today?

AND  What is the most fulfilling activity that I can put on my calendar today?

If the answers match the schedule, good for you!  And if not, then ask yourself, Why not?

You have the power to make choices about how you spend the precious hours you have each day.  Are you LIVING your life or are you SPENDING your life?

Choose to schedule your day based on what is important to you, what really matters.  Don’t let anyone else control your schedule.  If your boss wants you to be in a meeting at a certain time, then, by all means, attend the meeting.  But instead of spending emotional capital resenting it, accept that you choose to remain in this job [even if it feels as if you have no choice to remain in this job.  You could choose to quit and maybe live on the street so you might be making the right choice for the moment!]  If your family is making a demand on your time that causes you to resent saying ‘yes’ then say ‘no.’  And release feeling guilty about it!

Notice how often you make choices that don’t feel right to you.  Making the choice to take an injured kid to the ER feels right, doesn’t it?  Making the choice to escape into TV when there might be something else you could do might be escaping your life instead of living it.  AND watching TV might be your active choice to relax and rest your mind for a bit, so release the feeling of guilt about making that choice!

CHOOSE.  Match your schedule to your values.  Raise your consciousness about your moments and you’ll feel happier!

INSPIRATION FROM ROSEMARY: What Are Your Values for 2013?

Here’s my video for the week: What Are Your Values for 2013?


I’m away for a few days!

***Retreat with Richard***
A long weekend beginning January 25, 2013

Richard and I are escaping to the Eastern Shore of Maryland for some much needed days away to get our own values aligned and our plans in order. Yes, we do take my advice and examine these important elements of our lives, our businesses and our friends and families!

***A Community  of Transformation (ACT)***
Sunday, February 3, 2013 at 2:00 to 4:00 pm EST, Arnold, Maryland

Join us for this monthly Community meeting and celebration at Temple Beth Shalom.

Program Details

***eWomenNetwork “Accelerated Networking” Luncheon***
Thursday, February 14, 2013 at 11:30 to 1:30 EST, Rockville, Maryland

Join me at this networking event with a wonderful group of women!

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PS: To start 2013 off with incredible guidance from The Divine Feminine you can get the 8 recordings I made at the end of 2012 during my Wisdom of the Week(WOW) calls. Get them here.


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We finally have some snow!  I think we went through all of last winter in Maryland without this much snow, so it’s fun. (We have 1-2 inches but it’s still pretty, when viewed from inside a nice warm house!)  I love Winter and I know that many of you are wishing you were Down Under wearing a sundress and enjoying the heat.

But Winter is the time when we are invited to go inside and retreat.  To do the ‘inner cave’ work, to reflect, to analyze, to wonder, to ponder and to plan.  Are you giving yourself time to do that inner work these days?  Or are you gung-ho to get things done, to be busy, busy, busy?  Think about the weather and how it helps you to make the decision to hole up for a bit.

When people lived by the seasons and not by the clock they brought the animals into the house and lived within the warm safety of their space, eating what they had prepared and heating the home with wood they had gathered.  This is the time to really examine yourself and your life and your purpose and your calendar.  And if you’re one of our RosemarySpace members from the Southern Hemisphere, enjoy your Summer!  Your Winter will be here before you know it.

The Full Moon happens on Saturday, January 26 at11:38 pm Eastern Standard Time.  Great time to reach into your emotional closet and discard anything that doesn’t serve your personal growth.  Check your environment, too, for any objects or colors that seem to hold you back into who you were instead of supporting you in who you are becoming.  The Sun has moved into the astrological sign of Aquarius – which means that the Moon is in the opposite sign when it is Full.  This Leo Full Moon highlights the archetypal truths of both Leo and Aquarius – that every one of us is a unique spark of the divine and an inseparable part of the web of life.  We all have a special gift and role to play.  [The Mountain Astrologer]

Have you identified your unique spark of the divine?  This would be a great time to have your hands read! You can learn not only your Life Purpose in a scientific hand analysis session but also your Life Lesson and your Life School.  Good info to help you going forward!  Here’s where to get more details about this life changing work: Scientific Hand Analysis

And there’s still time for a 15 for 50 Compass Call!  I have a few slots left as I am helping folks get the guidance to confirm their plans for 2013 or get them out of the confusion about what to do next.  It’s a great way to get on track for your best year yet!  15 minutes in private with me for only $50!  Sign up here and we’ll get you on the schedule:

Hope to see you in person soon! Check out the ‘Where’s Rosemary?’ section and join me!  Stay warm if you’re also in the snow!


P.S. If you were on the Wisdom of the Week [WOW] Calls at the end of 2012 you know that we received some powerful guidance from The Divine Feminine each week.  And the recordings of these calls are still available. Here’s how you can get the audios of the 8 messages. The first one was recorded on the night that Hurricane Sandy knocked out the power here on the East Coast and caused so much destruction north of here – we did the call by candlelight!  Get the Audios Here

“Think New Thoughts for 2013” – Richard’s Commentary

“Thoughts become things” according to Mike Dooley. They are things according to many current authors linking quantum fields and our brains (or should I say “minds”?).  Our thoughts are certainly energy that is detectable, measurable and effective! The so called “new age” construct that we create our own reality through how we think and act, imagine and project our thoughts, ideas, visions into the world is becoming main stream science for those who are open and willing to explore these not-necessarily-self-evident concepts.

Then whether we believe this approach or not would seem not to matter; it’s not a matter of faith but a matter of science. We don’t believe in gravity; it’s a fact that objects near the earth respond to a force by falling to the earth. “Thoughts are things” is not a belief system but as real as gravity. There’s a lot of empirical evidence to back this up.

Therefore we really do have to be very aware of our thoughts, to monitor them, to assess and characterize them and to channel them in the direction we choose if we want to live a certain way. And this is particularly true if we want to change, improve the way we are living – evolve!

The way I look at this we need to be of “two minds.” We need our “active mind” to get us through the day. Part of this mind keeps us alive, running our physical bodies and responding to external stimulations as they pop up. And part of this mind is making decisions on a myriad of inputs; some decisions are almost automatic, based on habits and some are actual choices we are motivated to make based on priorities and plans. Then there is the second mind, the observer mind that assesses our life from another level. This could be called the “meta-mind” because it operates at the meta-level lifting out of the routine operations to passively monitor how we are doing. This could also be called the “mindful mind.”

Another common expression these days is “change your mind and change your life.” This could be the corollary to “thoughts become things.” These are easily expressed phrases, quickly becoming platitudes. But underlying their seemingly obvious simplicity things get a bit dicey. How many of you are sticking to your resolutions for 2013? That mind that runs on autopilot and habit consumes a huge percentage of our waking mental activity. It is not until we begin to assess how we are spending this “mind time” that we realize how much thought-energy is wasted. Don’t feel bad if you are already falling short on those resolutions. The routines you were living through in 2012, while not “hard-wired” into your brain, are a set of well worn pathways through neural networks laid down years ago. They are difficult to rewire!

The endless loops that play and replay in our minds are wasted energy. The knee-jerk emotional energy we expend on all the little, and sometimes big, annoyances in our lives is pretty much wasted – this emotional energy seldom accomplishes anything!

This is where the second, meta-mind comes in. We cannot change our minds, change our habits, change our responses unless we monitor, assess and evaluate the rightness and usefulness of those responses in the first place, when they occur.

A perfect example happened to me today. I was practicing qigong. My meta-mind should have been in high-gear, right? I was present, mindful, deeply into the practice. There were some people in the neighbor’s backyard talking and I could ignore them. Then our Lhasa Apso, Tara, came on the scene. At first she was attentive but quiet. Then as she detected the outside disturbance she let out a piercing bark. I almost jumped out of my skin! Then I scolded her for disrupting my practice. It took me several moments to re-collect myself and get back in my rhythm. Later as I was reviewing this I realized my reaction was not only out of habit but also unfair. Tara’s breed is from Tibet where Lhasas were raised as temple watchdogs. Their job was to alert meditating monks and masters if there was an intrusion into the monastery! Well, Tara was doing exactly what she was bred and raised to do! And she doesn’t have a meta-mind (at least as far as I can tell) so I had no right or reason to scold her! I’m the one with the meta-mind but it didn’t wake up until after my unfairness.

Exercising this meta-mind is no easy thing. This is why it is called “practice.” And it is through this practice that we can begin to “think new thoughts.”

How’s your 2013 practice coming along?

EXPLORATION: Think New Thoughts for 2013

It seems important for us to look at the state of the world and the way that humans are treating humans today.

This is not about politics although the politics of each country reflect what is happening in the psyches of the inhabitants.  What are you projecting from your psyche?

Since thoughts are energetic projects and have an effect on the environment we must take responsibility for the thoughts that we hold in our energy fields.  Ask yourself about the thoughts you projected today.  Did they come from a place within you that is sourced in Love?  Were your thoughts uplifting ones that, if written down and shared with others, they would make someone smile and feel good about themselves?  Or were you angry or upset and projecting that energy outward?

Think about the effect on a city when anger and hatred are stirred up and people are focused on disenfranchising others or hating and separating others.  Think about what could happen in a place where the people are fearful or wanting to kill others or angry at their neighbors.

Now think about the effect on a city when the inhabitants come together around a common cause to support each other.  Think about a community where kids can play safely because neighbors look out for neighbors.  Think about the energy in a place where neighbors spend the evening sitting together outside sharing chitchat and watching kids play together.

What do you feel as you imagine these scenarios?  Can you picture the column of energy that rises up from a place when the energy is what you pictured?  Which energy column would you rather sit next to?

This is what we each have a responsibility to create and to monitor.  Your energy is magnified when attached to the energy of others.  What do you chat about with your friends? Your co-workers?  Are you spinning each other up with thoughts of hatred and anger and separation?  Or are you finding common ground in which to discuss ways that you are similar and can agree?  When you spout off do you move the conversation to solutions or do you stay in the emotion of the problems?  Are you more comfortable discussing issues than seeking strategies for moving beyond the problems?

Each of us has responsibility for the thought energies we project.  When we gather with others, we intensify the energy of the ideas expressed and discussed.  Conversations do not have to be confrontational.  There can be real, honest agreements to disagree, but there must be respect for the person even if the ideas expressed cannot be embraced.

Somewhere along the line we seem to have forgotten that we are all connected.  We are all members of the human race.  We have differing perspectives based on what we have been taught or what we have experienced or what we have embraced as our values.  Yet each person is on Planet Earth to learn lessons, to grow, to advance human consciousness, whether or not they have embraced that responsibility.

Accept that you cannot control the thoughts of others, but you can control your own.  Catch yourself building a column of energy that doesn’t feel supporting and light and stop it.  Shift your thinking to thoughts of Light and Hope and Community. Make sure you are projecting energy that you wouldn’t mind having projected onto you!

And surround yourself with people who are willing co-creators of columns of Light rather than anger and hatred.  We will all thank you!

PS: To guide your thoughts for 2013 with incredible inspiration from The Divine Feminine you can get the 8 recordings I made at the end of 2012 during my Wisdom of the Week (WOW) calls. Get them here.

INSPIRATION FROM ROSEMARY: The Energy of Your Thoughts

Here’s my video for the week: The Energy of Your Thoughts


PS: For more inspiration and incredible guidance from The Divine Feminine you can get 8 recordings I made at the end of 2012 during my Wisdom of the Week (WOW) calls. Get them here.


I’m moving into high-gear with the new year! Friday’s qigong class with Bridget was awesome. If you are in the Annapolis area join us live for this amazing teacher as she focuses on “spontaneous healing” for this session. If you are at a distance you can join by video! Find the details below!

***Qigong with Bridget***
Fridays beginning January 18, 2013 at 10:00 am EST!

Also presented online for your convenience. (And you can join the class in progress if you didn’t make it last Friday.)

Bridget Hughes, Licensed Acupuncture Practioner and Qigong Instructor begins a new series of classes: Get Your Spontaneous Healing On! She will be teaching on the following topics: An Inquiry into Radical Health, Qigong – Moving Meditation, Food Healing, and Reverse Disease Using Latest Research. The class is available in person in Severna Park, Maryland, and anywhere in the world through online video instruction!

Join me on this path to “radical wellness.” The link here has the details and a sample of Bridget’s teaching:

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***A Community of Transformation (ACT)***
Sunday, February 3, 2013 at 2:00 to 4:00 pm EST, Arnold, Maryland

Join us for this monthly Community meeting and celebration at Temple Beth Shalom.

Program Details

***eWomenNetwork “Accelerated Networking” Luncheon***
Thursday, February 14, 2013 at 11:30 to 1:30 EST, Rockville, Maryland

Join me at this networking event with a wonderful group of women!

Information and Registration

PS: To start 2013 off with incredible guidance from The Divine Feminine you can get the 8 recordings I made at the end of 2012 during my Wisdom of the Week(WOW) calls. Get them here.



It’s mid-January – do you know where your year is?  2013 is the post 2012 era beginning with all the energy to support your transformation.  We’re feeling it here!  Time for new activities, upleveled offerings, connections with new networks.  All the energy of The Shift that led up to its culmination at the Solstice in December 2012 is now propelling us to act on the transformation we’ve experienced.

I hope you take this to heart without discounting the language because you are a part of the transformation on Planet Earth for the 21st Century.  How cool is that?

What’s your vision for this year?  Have you identified it yet?  NOW is the time to get clarity so that your year can be planned to support your vision.  I still have some 15 for 50 slots left so let me know if you’d like some help in getting that clear picture of your direction for this year.  Things are really popping and we don’t want to slide through the year without a plan!  Here’s where to sign up for your 15-minute Compass Call – a chance to spend 15 minutes with me to get your Compass pointed in the right direction to manifest your vision for this year with guidance from many dimensions. This shopping cart button will get you on my schedule soonest:

There seems to be such hope in the air as folks are turning toward their dreams.  I love hearing BIG dreams and visions as people reach beyond what they can see into the field of all possibilities.  If you’re clear about your VISION FOR 2013 or if you work with me in a 15 for 50 Compass Call then send me an email with a phrase defining your vision and I’ll put it on my altar to energize with you as we move more deeply into this year.  Let me stand with you to help you make your dream year come true!

It’s been great fun to help so many people so far this year learn their Life Purpose, Life School, Life Lesson through Scientific Hand Analysis.  Helping people focus on their Purpose and make peace with their Lesson means they can develop plans for this year based on who they were born to be, as shown to them in the markings in their handprints.  YOU are unique, as your unique fingerprints show you.  Why not decode the rest of the messages in your hand so that you can use every tool you were born with?  Give yourself the gift of knowledge about who you are with a Scientific Hand Analysis! Learn more here.

Richard and I are starting up several new activities in Annapolis in the next 2 months.  Would you like to join us for a monthly Celebration?  How about singing Sanskrit chants in a gathering called Kirtan? [No musical talent required!]  We’ll let you know the specifics of each event in a separate email so watch your inbox!

Here in America we are celebrating Martin Luther King, Jr.’s birthday on January 21st and we’re also inaugurating our re-elected president.  No matter your politics, this is a special time of beginnings.  Open yourself to new options for your life.

Remember that your thoughts create your reality so think good thoughts this week!  Keep bringing in whatever you desire by thinking new thoughts until the Full Moon next weekDream BIG for 2013!





P.S. If you were on the Wisdom of the Week [WOW] Calls at the end of 2012 you know that we received some powerful guidance from The Divine Feminine each week.  And the recordings of these calls are still availableHere’s how you can get the audios of the 8 messages.  The first one was recorded on the night that Hurricane Sandy knocked out the power here on the East Coast and caused so much destruction north of here – we did the call by candlelight!  Get the Audios Here