We are always avoiding pain but does that give us enough impetus to keep going after the danger or pain is over? I think of the wealthy people who are motivated by avoiding poverty. The farther from poverty they get the less motivated they can become to make money and they lose it/go bankrupt. But then they become motivated to make money again to avoid poverty so they make lots more money. This is a cycle with people who are motivated to move away from the pain of poverty.
When we follow a pattern of avoiding pain we must be careful to shift our gears to moving toward something instead of always moving away from pain. Notice that the ‘moving away from’ energy diminishes the farther one gets from pain. But what takes over? Where is the motivation after the pain is no longer a problem?
The person who would live a Conscious Life knows what they are moving toward. There is a desire to expand awareness, to grow in Consciousness, that keeps one motivated to learn more, to experience more, to continue to grow. There has to be an attachment to that movement forward to carry the person into further growth. It cannot be only about avoiding pain.
Too many people have been struggling in their lives to ‘keep up with the Joneses’ and so they have struggled to maintain a lifestyle that is not in alignment with their income or life purpose. These people have been trying to avoid a negative comparison with someone else. Or they have believed that they are entitled to have whatever their neighbor has and they want to avoid embarrassment. But living in a way that is based on avoiding the pain of embarrassment does not move one into higher consciousness. This choice does not expand consciousness or awareness. It is actually a limiting energy because it is based on a comparison with someone else and a desire to avoid coming up short.
What is your motivation in your daily life? Are you constantly taking action to avoid pain or do you move toward pleasure? Might there be a balance that is needed in your life?
Looking at what motivates you can give you some real insights into your own value structure. If you are constantly avoiding pain without deciding what you are moving toward then examine your value structures to determine what really matters to you and what it is that you desire to bring into your life.
You will not be living your life to the fullest if all you do is make choices to avoid the next pain!
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EXPLORATION: How’s Your Health?
October 31, 2012 — RosemaryI’m writing this as I sit in a doctor’s office while my daughter sees a surgeon about having her gall bladder removed. It’s sobering to see your loved one in pain.
So I’m thinking about the pain that so many people have, every day, because their health isn’t what they would like it to be. Not just physical health, but also emotional health, mental health, spiritual health. It’s so important to be healthy on all levels that just focusing on the physical doesn’t lead us to the life of our dreams.
What’s the last thing you did for your emotional health? Are you looking at your life for keys to the blocks that you are experiencing? Have you mined the past on your personal timeline to learn the lessons of your experiences? Are you developing new tools for your responses so your knee-jerk reaction isn’t where you get stuck when something happens in your life?
How about your mental health? Have you examined the tapes that play in your head for their source and to decide whether to keep them playing or to change them? Do you know what negative thoughts are popping up and keeping you from growing into the person you were meant to be? Are you holding yourself back from your greatness because you think you can’t be great?
And your spiritual health is most important because the beliefs you hold affect all the other levels of your being. Your beliefs affect your thoughts which generate your emotions and, finally, present as physical health problems if you haven’t cleared them. Oftentimes, beliefs come from our childhood or our family tree or our environment [society, teachers, churches, etc.]. They have not been generated consciously but are sourced in the unconscious mind.
What do you believe about yourself? Might there be a belief that ‘Everyone in our family gets arthritis by the time they are 50’? How about ‘No one from this neighborhood gets to go to college’? These unconscious beliefs operate to restrict us whether we are aware of them or not. Have you examined what you believe and made a conscious choice about holding onto that belief or releasing it?
At the physical level, you must choose to live in balance with all of your other levels. Are you eating in a way that matches your beliefs about food and its sources? Are you making physical choices based on unconscious emotions or thoughts that conflict with what is best for you? Do you ask yourself questions about your life and its balance when something presents as out of balance?
Many people can look at stress in their life and see the imbalance that is caused there. Too many believe that they can’t do anything about stress. But what they are really saying is that they don’t know what to do about the stress that they can’t change.
Things happen. We react. Then we choose our response to the event. That’s what life is.
And if we can’t change the things that happen, then we have to look at our reactions and our responses. This is the first place to build up our took kit so that we can live a conscious life and choose wisely our responses to events. This FOLLOWS doing all the other work to bring our beliefs, thoughts, emotions into balance.
When I spend a Muse Day with a client, where we have a whole day together to clear blocks and make plans, we often spend most of the day on the clearing blocks part of the agenda, checking in on the spiritual, mental and emotional levels. Creating a plan for the actions to take in the physical plan is often the easiest and quickest part of the day because we’ve brought every thing else into balance before we start the planning.
Trying to plan without the balance brings frustration and much harder work. Trying to deal with dis-ease without finding the source of the imbalance makes the task much more difficult, if not impossible.
Our daughter will be fine. She’s been working through many levels of what is happening. I’m sorry she’s going through the proverbial ‘2 by 4 to the head’ experience but haven’t we all had some of those? We learn!
And I hope that you, too, will examine the levels of your being for where imbalances live. Clearing those can really help you move the pain out of your life!
PS: This Friday, November 2, just in time for All Souls Day, the Day of the Dead, you are invited to a Conversation with The Other Side! I’ll be bringing in the Energies, Loved Ones who have crossed over, Angels, Spirit Guides, all manner of extra-dimensional beings during this time when the veil between the worlds is at its thinnest! Join me! Learn more here!