How many times do we have to hear that we create our own reality with our thoughts and beliefs? Isn’t this message getting a bit tired?
Unfortunately, we must continue to hear this over and over again because there is always another level to the work we must do to gain control over our thoughts.
Have you been working with this concept for a while? I have. I learned many years ago that the mind/body connection is very strong. I had no idea that this was so until I examined some ways in which my mind was controlling my body – in an unconscious way – to my detriment. I fixed that problem and became a believer in the power of the mind.
There are many books out there that talk about the power of the mind, e.g., Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, a classic. But the place where we must really begin is to understand that we CHOOSE whether or not to attach our energy to a passing thought. Sometimes it’s easier to feel that what we think is the result of what is going on in our little world but the truth is that the cycle begins with our thoughts, beliefs and expectations. We human are learning beings and we are constantly seeking opportunities to learn our lessons. Whatever we are thinking is bringing the next lesson to us. If we allow ourselves to attach to negative thoughts we stay stuck and often miss an opportunity to learn a lesson while we stay in the ‘woe is me’ energy. People who lead fulfilling lives have learned that ‘woe is me’ energy does not propel them forward in their personal growth nor do the problems get solved with that energy.
Now I am not saying that a reaction to a particular situation might not come up as ‘woe is me’ but it is attaching to that thought, staying with that energy, that can paralyze us and keep us from forward progress. What to do instead? Recognize how powerful we are and catch the moment before we attach to that thought. Think instead, ‘I am feeling put-upon and disturbed but I know that I have resources I can tap into to find a solution, or set of solutions, to this problem.’ Keep focused on moving energy THROUGH a situation rather than attaching and getting stuck IN a situation.
The beliefs of generations before us are instilled in us as if they are the Truth with a capital ‘T’ about the world around us and these can be trickier to dislodge because we have to unearth them as influential energies. We don’t spend much time analyzing why gravity works but we believe that if we drop something it will fall to the ground. Generational beliefs operate much as gravity does in our lives, but we must learn to analyze the source of those beliefs and choose to embrace or discard them from a conscious position. Sometimes this requires the assistance of a counselor who can ferret out with us/for us where these beliefs are functioning in our lives. The effect can be insidious but, once identified, can be dealt with very efficiently.
Understand your role in your reality. Think empowering thoughts. Work to clear limiting beliefs. Identify the source of what you believe and make a conscious choice whether to continue believing that. THEN you will be living a Conscious Life and your reality will coincide with what you desire it to be!
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Mystic Messages 
MUSE-INGS: You’re #1 [Priority!] by Rosemary Bredeson
December 28, 2010 — RosemaryHow often do we hear that we are supposed to love ourselves? And how often do we NEED to hear it?
When we get really busy, around holidays or our work’s busy season, for example, we tend to put taking care of ourselves on the back burner. For whatever reason, and we can certainly come up with some good excuses, we just don’t get around to that ‘taking care of ourselves’ stuff!
So today I am going to ask you to join me in moving forward in the commitment to put taking care of Self at the top of the priority list.
Do you make lists? To-do lists? Shopping lists? Gift lists? Who determines the priorities on those lists? From my studies of neuro-linguistic programming and hypnosis I’ve learned that our unconscious mind is in charge, whether we know it or not and whether we like it or not. We can write a list of priorities that look the way we consciously want them to look or as we feel we ‘should’ prioritize our values, but it really is more important to determine what really matters and what really motivates us. The list might look different, and usually does, when we work with our unconscious mind to determine our values and our priorities.
So what can you do to make sure that loving yourself makes it to the top of your priority list? Decide. Commit to yourself. And do the work to examine your unconscious mind and its priorities. Keep track of your activities one day. Watch how you spend your time. What is so urgent that it bumps other things off your to-do list? See if you can put something on the list that is only about taking care of yourself. Does it get done? Does it stay on the list or does it get pushed aside by emergencies? Just notice. This is not about beating yourself up but about becoming curious about exactly where your motivating forces reside within you.
Now try scheduling that ‘me time’ that you need. What would you do with an hour, a half-hour, 15-minutes of ‘me time’? Make an appointment with yourself for this and keep that time sacred. It could start with a simple 5-minute meditation or a walk around the block or 15 minutes without answering emails or the phone. I frequently take ‘tea time’ for myself. I make myself tea and get a piece of fruit or a graham cracker and sit with a book and sip tea. I don’t jump up to answer the phone. I step away from the computer. I’ve learned that everything that tries to intrude on my ‘tea time’ can wait a half-hour to be handled.
It might take some practice to ignore a ringing phone, but we do have caller ID now so, if it is an emergency you can probably detect it. You can set certain times each day that you check email and facebook and keep to that schedule so that those activities are not eating up your ‘me time.’ What activity really feeds your spirit? Do you like to write or read or play piano or make jewelry? I like to do all of these things and sometimes I just need to go to the piano and play one song to give myself a break from pondering a problem or getting things done. It’s like a meditation to get lost in the music for a few minutes.
Decide what feels good to you and then do it no matter what else tries to claim your attention or your time. You’ll find that the energy you gain from taking time for yourself makes you more productive in your other activities. If you break away from doing for others for a bit you can be more fully present to them when you move back into that shared space.
Let’s make Self-Love a priority and do the work it takes to keep it at the top of the list!
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