Sadness? Grief? Loss? Who wants to think about those things?
But, if we are committed to living a Conscious Life, then we must be aware of our feelings for they do represent important guidance for us along the path of personal growth. How comfortable are you with those feelings in yourself? How about in another person? Is it hard for you to experience another’s grief or sadness and really be present to them when they are feeling those feelings?
I know it can be hard to stay with what is uncomfortable but that great growth is the blessing in learning to do this. There is always Light on the other side of that which appears to be darkness. The Light is in there somewhere. Searching for the Light requires that sometimes we must make peace with the darkness. It is like allowing your eyes to become adjusted to the lack of light in a room. Once you have adapted, you can see far more than you could see initially.
It’s the same with feelings that we might be tempted to judge as ‘dark.’ When you stay with that feeling, keeping your eyes open and seeking what is available within the feeling to help you grow, you will become immersed enough for your vision to clear and show you the lesson.
A good friend will be present with you when you are feeling these feelings. A really good friend will hold you in a healing space and help you to stay in the feeling long enough to learn the lesson. The temptation to joke or lighten up the mood takes us away from the honesty of what we are feeling. And honesty is the necessary quality in order that we might go deeply enough into our feeling to learn the lesson that lies there.
Can you give yourself permission to be honest with yourself? Can you suspend judging yourself and those around you for feeling what feelings are coming up? Learning to recognize feelings and to work with them becomes a part of the process of personal growth. A very important part.
Feelings emerge from a place deep within us. Often feelings look as if they are about something going on around us at a particular time. But sometimes those feelings are attached to something from the past and we are fooled into thinking that they belong in the present moment. If you have suffered a hurt in the past and something arises that brings up that past hurt, you might be tempted to react as if the past and the present events have merged into one. This can increase the feelings so that they are no longer appropriate for that one moment.
Losing someone can be linked, in the unconscious mind, to previous experiences of abandonment and the feelings of loss can be increased because of this linkage. Becoming conscious of the source and depth of our feelings puts on in a place where we can be effective in learning from the entire experience. If we know that there might be something in the past that is still begging for our attention so we can learn the lesson then we owe it to our self and to our personal growth to stay with that feeling until the lesson is revealed.
But all of this does not mean that we must wallow in sad feelings and cling to them while ignoring the life around us. As in all things, we must find balance in our lives. Clinging to feelings without doing the processes of working with the feelings, learning the lessons, is a form of self-centeredness that can drive people away from us. Feeling the feelings, working with them, moving forward in our personal growth – this is the path with the most reward. For when we choose to actually DO the work of growth then we can move through and beyond the feelings that we are feeling. It is in refusing to do the work that we become stuck.
Decide today to choose growth over being stuck in your feelings!
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Mystic Messages 
MUSE-INGS: “Seek the Light in the Dark Feelings” by Rosemary Bredeson
December 21, 2010 — RosemarySadness? Grief? Loss? Who wants to think about those things?
But, if we are committed to living a Conscious Life, then we must be aware of our feelings for they do represent important guidance for us along the path of personal growth. How comfortable are you with those feelings in yourself? How about in another person? Is it hard for you to experience another’s grief or sadness and really be present to them when they are feeling those feelings?
I know it can be hard to stay with what is uncomfortable but that great growth is the blessing in learning to do this. There is always Light on the other side of that which appears to be darkness. The Light is in there somewhere. Searching for the Light requires that sometimes we must make peace with the darkness. It is like allowing your eyes to become adjusted to the lack of light in a room. Once you have adapted, you can see far more than you could see initially.
It’s the same with feelings that we might be tempted to judge as ‘dark.’ When you stay with that feeling, keeping your eyes open and seeking what is available within the feeling to help you grow, you will become immersed enough for your vision to clear and show you the lesson.
A good friend will be present with you when you are feeling these feelings. A really good friend will hold you in a healing space and help you to stay in the feeling long enough to learn the lesson. The temptation to joke or lighten up the mood takes us away from the honesty of what we are feeling. And honesty is the necessary quality in order that we might go deeply enough into our feeling to learn the lesson that lies there.
Can you give yourself permission to be honest with yourself? Can you suspend judging yourself and those around you for feeling what feelings are coming up? Learning to recognize feelings and to work with them becomes a part of the process of personal growth. A very important part.
Feelings emerge from a place deep within us. Often feelings look as if they are about something going on around us at a particular time. But sometimes those feelings are attached to something from the past and we are fooled into thinking that they belong in the present moment. If you have suffered a hurt in the past and something arises that brings up that past hurt, you might be tempted to react as if the past and the present events have merged into one. This can increase the feelings so that they are no longer appropriate for that one moment.
Losing someone can be linked, in the unconscious mind, to previous experiences of abandonment and the feelings of loss can be increased because of this linkage. Becoming conscious of the source and depth of our feelings puts on in a place where we can be effective in learning from the entire experience. If we know that there might be something in the past that is still begging for our attention so we can learn the lesson then we owe it to our self and to our personal growth to stay with that feeling until the lesson is revealed.
But all of this does not mean that we must wallow in sad feelings and cling to them while ignoring the life around us. As in all things, we must find balance in our lives. Clinging to feelings without doing the processes of working with the feelings, learning the lessons, is a form of self-centeredness that can drive people away from us. Feeling the feelings, working with them, moving forward in our personal growth – this is the path with the most reward. For when we choose to actually DO the work of growth then we can move through and beyond the feelings that we are feeling. It is in refusing to do the work that we become stuck.
Decide today to choose growth over being stuck in your feelings!
________________________
Please feel free to re-post this article and share it with your readers. All I ask is that you include the following information when you do: