Mystic Messages

If you watch a lot of TV, you are being bombarded by messages, from newscasters, from commercials, from people who express opinions that may or may not be based on fact and intellectual analysis.  Whatever you read, whether the newspaper or a novel, a non-fiction or a textbook, contains messages that are being absorbed by your psyche and often accepted unconsciously as true for you.

The most insidious messages are being accepted by your unconscious mind because they come from someone you trust, even someone you love and whom you thought loved you.  Parents are comparing their children to others with the subtle message that their child is not good enough.  Superiors at work are giving out criticisms thinking they are focusing on getting the job done but the employee is hearing, ‘I can’t do anything right.’  Teachers have a pet who gets the best grades and other students think they’re not lovable because they aren’t as academically successful.  The list goes on and on.  And sometimes the saddest case is when a life partner criticizes or ‘puts down’ their partner, implying, again, that they are not ‘good enough’ or that they are ‘unlovable.’

What messages have you embraced that are not about your inherent goodness but you believe them because someone you trust or trusted in the past told you they were true?  How many religious leaders have told their congregations that they are not worthy, not good enough?  Have you ever taken the time to examine what you do and do not believe about yourself?  Have you ever asked yourself WHY you believe some things that you believe?

Today is the day to start examining your thoughts, your beliefs about yourself and who you really are.  You are a person with a big heart.  You have a good mind.  You are worthy of being treated well, by all those with whom you come into contact.  You are lovable, just the way you are today.  There is nothing that you need to do to earn anyone else’s love.  You can give love to others.  You can figure out the solutions you need or you can ask for help, which you deserve to receive.  You have always been this way.  You have always deserved to be loved, so if Life has given you experiences that contradict this, then examine those experiences and ask yourself if they were about the other person and not about you. [They were.]

That little baby who was you a few years ago is still as lovable as he or she was then.  That baby lives within you.  If you are resisting these words today, then get in touch with that tiny, innocent baby and love it.  Grow that love up to today.  Everything you have done or been in the past has helped you to grow into the person you are today.  Accept that with gratitude.  Every behavior you have exhibited, every choice you have made, has helped you to evolve.  If you are feeling stuck, then examine your current situation for the learning that is there.  There is ALWAYS something to learn, so if you are stuck it is because you haven’t finished what you need to experience.

Forgive yourself for the choices that you have made.  You did the best you could in that moment.  Knowing what you know now you might make a different choice, but in that moment you made a choice that brought you lessons, albeit painful ones sometimes.  Forgive others.  This does not mean that you must believe that what has harmed you is acceptable and it does not mean that you must stay in relationship with people who have or continue to hurt you.  But to hold onto anger and unforgiveness harms you without resolving the issue or, indeed, having anything to do with the other person.  Forgiving others means deciding that you will no longer give them power over your own Life.  You choose now to release whatever strings they have been holding that continue to affect your Life.  Let them go to learn their own lessons – then you can be complete with yours.

Learn the lessons and love yourself in the process.  Life is really as simple as that!