Conscious Relationships Start with Self-Love – Richard’s Commentary

Humans are social beings. It is all about relationships. Last week I wrote about our interdependence with others, what Thich Nhat Hahn calls “interbeing.” We are especially dependent on and interdependent with other humans. Here’s what Rosemary says about that:

Human beings are relationship experts. We are constantly adjusting relationships, in one direction or another. Relationships with significant others, with parents and with children, with co-workers, clients, neighbors, hairdressers, waitstaff at the local restaurant, checker at the grocery store. Every interaction with another human being is an element of a relationship.

And every relationship begins on the inside of ourselves. This is why it is so important to have that relationship in the first place! Do you have a good relationship with yourself?

In her post Rosemary writes about choices we have and we make moment to moment. The first choice is to have that inner relationship. How do you do that? It’s as easy as breathing! And we all need to do that!

The “conscious relationship with self” begins with conscious breathing. That’s right, bring your consciousness to your breathing pattern. Don’t try to change it or make an effort, just bring your attention to how your breath feels; think about the inhale; feel it as it comes in through your nose, down your throat, into your lungs. Where does it go there? Does it fill up your chest? Does it go down into your belly? Just notice. And on the exhale, how does that feel? What happens first? How much air do you exhale?

Shifting just our focus on our breath, with no change at all in rhythm or style, changes our body chemistry and our mental awareness! Imagine what might happen if you actually, consciously begin to control your breathing. Maybe your in-breath goes a bit deeper and is longer; maybe you hold it for just a moment as you sense it, notice the feeling of expansion. Then as you exhale maybe you do this more slowly, deliberately. And maybe you expel more air, even flattening your belly, back towards your spine as you push out more air – to make room for a bigger in-breath.

And you can continue in this manner, watching your breath, taking longer, deeper, slower breaths. This is the beginning of a relationship with yourself, your deeper self.

I’m not writing here to teach meditation. But I am echoing Rosemary’s intention that your best relationship is with yourself, inside. Here’s what she says about you:

Who you are, deep in your core, is a beautiful being of Light. Who you are, inside, is a spark of divine energy. Who you are, in the essence of you, is a person of access to great wisdom and love. THIS is the person that you really want to show up in every relationship, isn’t it?

I would like to have a relationship with this being of Light – you! Wouldn’t you?

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ROSEMARY’S INSPIRATION: Let’s Talk About Relationships

My “Two-Minute” Video for this Week: Let’s Talk About Relationships

ROSEMARY’S NEWS

Grand cross planetsWhew! We made it through one of the big celestial events of this month! Were you able to view the Full Moon Eclipse on April 15? I did get up in the middle of the night to look but it was cloudy here in Maryland and I couldn’t see it. I have felt the energy this week, and many people are talking about how the Eclipse has affected them.

Now we’re ready for the big one – the Cardinal Grand Cross, April 20-23.

This is when Jupiter, Uranus, Pluto and Mars play together in a big cross with right angles in the middle. We are invited to change and to change in big ways. Here is some guidance fromThe Mountain Astrologer magazine: “Engaging the assistance of others (Mars in partnering Libra) in pursuit of our most creative goals could be the key to changing the course of our lives and helping to bring humanity to the higher level of consciousness promised by Uranus square Pluto.” In other words, collaboration will create more success and growth than competition.

Relationships were up for reassessment during the total eclipse earlier this month and we were invited to look at how we show up for others. Then the Sun moves in the solid Earth sign of Taurus on April 19. While we could choose to resist change by being ‘stubborn as a bull,’ we could also use this solidity to build confidence that we can use these celestial energies to create positive transformation in the world through transforming ourselves.

As my astrologer friend, Gloria Hesseloff, says, “The message of this Grand Cross is the Transformation of Your Belief System through Loving Action. Be optimistic and work with it. Ask the Universe through this time to SHOW ME THE TRUTH ABOUT MYSELF…NO MATTER HOW BEAUTIFUL!”

I have been working with these energies for awhile now and I can tell you that big change is possible! It’s time for each of us to figure out how we are going to shine our inner Light into the world. Who are you, really? Now is the time to look inside. Now is the time to clear those beliefs that make you think you are less than wonderful.

You can do it! If you need help, email me. I am still offering that Spring Tune-up Session at a special rate.Let me help you clear away the blocks that have been holding you back. Together we can claim that transformation that the Solar System is wanting to give you!  rosemary@TheScientificMystic.com

Take Loving Action in the direction of your dreams today!

ROSEMARY’S EXPLORATION: Conscious Relationships Start with Self-Love

All Love flows from Self-Love.

I’ve shared this many times and will keep doing so until each of us is totally in love with our own divine Self!

The most important relationship you have is the one you have with yourself. What is the measure of that relationship right now? Are you giving this relationship time, nurturing, attention, even money? Or are you putting off taking care of yourself while you care for others, or think that you cannot ‘afford’ to take care of yourself?

Human beings are relationship experts. We are constantly adjusting relationships, in one direction or another. Relationships with significant others, with parents and with children, with co-workers, clients, neighbors, hairdressers, waitstaff at the local restaurant, checker at the grocery store. Every interaction with another human being is an element of a relationship. If you are having a bad day, do you walk into the hardware store and act like the grumpy guy from down the street? When you have a bad day at work, do you come home and snap at the family?

When you have a great day, do you smile at the barista at Starbucks? Bring flowers home for the dinner table? Call a friend just to say ‘hi’?

You have choices. And every interaction with another human being involves a choice on your part about how you are showing up in that relationship.

Maybe you haven’t thought about how you treat the teller at the bank as a ‘relationship,’ but it is. It deserves care and tending. Your family members, too, deserve to have a relationship with you that comes from caring and love and it is your choice whether or not to offer nurturing in that relationship.

The first choice that you are called to make is to be true to your Self. Your relationship to your inner Self determines how you will relate to others. Do you struggle with a lack of self-love? Do you lash out at others instead of taking a breath and seeking guidance from your inner wisdom? Do you judge people without compassion about their circumstances, about which you might know nothing?

Who you are, deep in your core, is a beautiful being of Light. Who you are, inside, is a spark of divine energy. Who you are, in the essence of you, is a person of access to great wisdom and love. THIS is the person that you really want to show up in every relationship, isn’t it?

Take some time today to check in with yourself about your relationship with your Self. Tap into your own inner wisdom as you look around at the relationships in which you participate every day.

The word ‘namaste’ means ‘the Light in me honors the Light in you.’ Let your Light shine in every connection that you experience. Come from loving yourself, valuing that Light within, and sharing that Light with the outer world.

Conscious Relationships are the most rewarding. Start with a Conscious Relationship with your Self!

Rosemary on: Tools for Healing

I recently appeared on Conversations That Heal Radio with my dear friend, Susan Jacobi, to talk about Tools for Healing and we covered a lot of territory in just 30 minutes!  Here is the link so that you can learn about some techniques for getting calm when you start to feel anxious, healing the past (lives, childhood, family tree issues) and what to use to empower yourself in your personal growth.  We had a great conversation!

Connect! – Richard’s Commentary

We are all connected in so many ways. Do you ever consider just how connected we are? Thich Nhat Hahn speaks of this as interdependence. I heard him speak years ago about this concept of interconnectedness, not just with humans but with all things. It’s his way to begin to explain shunyata, or the Mahayana Buddhist philosophy of “emptiness.” We are interconnected with and interdependent on every atom and molecule on earth (and beyond)!

So as Rosemary writes:

Your life is all about connecting. You were born into a family or chosen by one. You have chosen friends and partners. You bore children or sired them. You have worked with people, paid some for services, gone to the doctor, bought groceries. Every thing you have done has contained an element of connection.

How deep does your “connecting” go?

All of these external, intricate interdependencies at the material, physical level are only a small (maybe miniscule) part of our connectedness. Rosemary urges another way to “Connect” to the inner you:

When you connect with the inner you, you are tapping into your own power, your essence. When you have a strong connection to your inner wisdom, your guides, you gain clarity and confidence.

How vast is this connection for you? When you let your imagination run free how much ground does it cover, how many worlds do you visit?

Rosemary mentions many ways to connect to the inner you: meditation, contemplation, visualizations, writing. For those who don’t have a formal practice even daydreaming is a way to connect. Prayer is also an excellent way to connect and listen!

But how many of us resist this inner connection? How many even blot it out through various means of escape? Even in prayer it is easy to externalize the conversation making appeals to the Almighty out there somewhere in the Universe! Do we ever stop to listen, to keep this conversation bidirectional? When/if we do listen, where do we hear that voice?

Often people need help with this inner connection. For many indigenous peoples they relied on shamans as intercessors with the Spirit World. Western people rely on their priests and/or psychologists to facilitate the inner dialog. This is a wonderful way to begin the conversation. Sometimes we need translators to interpret the symbols. Sometimes we need validation that what we are hearing/feeling/seeing is true for us.

If you need help to jumpstart your inner connection, get it. The inner world is vast beyond belief. The inner connection, the inner dialog can take you on journeys beyond your wildest conscious imagination if you allow and listen. Your purpose calls you to this and your passion is waiting for you, just there, inside!

Have fun; have a great ride. And don’t worry about sending postcards!

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ROSEMARY’S INSPIRATION: Connect! To Your Passion & Purpose

My “Two-Minute” Video for this Week: Connect! To Your Passion & Purpose

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